Teen Dating Violence
Did you know that according to the Lake Worth Student Code of Conduct, Dating violence occurs when a person in a current or past dating relationship uses physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional abuse to harm, threaten, intimidate, or control another person in the relationship. Dating violence also occurs when a person commits these acts against a person in a marriage or dating relationship with the individual who is or was once in a marriage or dating relationship with the person committing the offense, as defined by Section 71.0021 of the Family Code?
Quick Facts on Teen Dating Violence?
- Both girls and boys are victims of abuse
- Both girls and boys are perpetrators of abuse
- Abuse almost always reoccurs in a relationship.
- Most abuse gets more severe with time.
- Between 10 and 38% of high school students have been victims of dating violence.
- Among students who are currently dating, as many as 59% have experienced physical violence, and 96% have experienced psychological or emotional abuse.
- Adults who use violence with their dating partners often being doing so during adolescence, with the first episode typically occurring by age 15.
Characteristics or signs of the behaviors:
- Physical abuse – hitting, pinching, shaking, choking, shoving, pushing, biting, spitting, pulling hair, threatening, throwing things.
- Psychological/Emotional abuse – ignoring your feelings, insulting your beliefs or values, calling you names, isolating, displaying inappropriate anger, scaring you/driving recklessly, keeping you from leaving, putting down your family/friends, humiliating you in public/private, and threatening to hurt oneself.
- Sexual abuse – forcing a date to have sex, forcing a date to do other sexual things he or she doesn’t want to do. Includes any behavior by a dating partner that is used to manipulate, gain control, gain power over someone, makes a person feel bad about self or others, makes a person afraid of her/his boyfriend/girlfriend.
Guidelines for helping people who are being abused:
- Believe your friend’s story.
- Make sure they are safe.
- Let them know that they don’t deserve to be abused.
- Ask them lots of questions to get them to think about the problem.
- Ask them what their options are and what they can do. (Stay, leave, talk to partner, get advice)
- Let them know that abuse almost always gets worse in a relationship if it’s ignored. If the abuse is to stop, the person being abused has to be willing to take actions to end it.
- Encourage them to seek help. (See community resources below)
Community Resources:
- Call 911 in an emergency
- Counselors, Interventionist, Principal, or Teacher
- Women’s Center Crisis Hotline: 817-927-2737
- Safe Haven: 877-701-7233
- National Teen Dating Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Resources
Local and National Agency Information
Internet Resources